I have to get something off my chest today. Venting is good for the soul. The other day another mom of an ASD child for the second time used the phrase , "So still working on World Domination?" Now the first time this was implied I shrugged it off as sassy sarcasm but the second time it kind of bothered me. Why would a fellow mom going through some of the same things as myself say something that sounds so negative? Is it because I have many different projects going at the same time? Is it because I have big goals and aspirations? Maybe I am too positive about my children's disabilities. I am still without words to understand. Maybe I am being too sensitive.
Let me just sum-up this short blog entry. I stay busy to stay sane. I push ahead to be strong for my family. I try to find the light at the end of the tunnel. I am no Wonder-Woman but I wish I was because then I could accomplish all that is in front of me. We moms need to stick together. To support each other. To love one another, unconditionally. For the sake of our children.
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Usually parents who say this kind of stuff are the ones who dislike your actions because it makes them look lazy. These are the same people who tell you "you study too much", "you clean too much" or "you work too hard"..basically what they are saying is "Your making ME look bad". Next time she says something like that I'd say "Hell yeah I shooting for world domination, You didn't know? I'm Superwomen!!!..and the LEAST you could do is get of your ASS and strive to be my sidekick instead of asking so many damn questions."
Your fellow Super Mom~ Tiff
ps. I got to get my cape cleaned the baby threw up on it (lol)..
Kim, I just have to say you aren't being oversensitive at all. You just have to realize some people are jerks and always will be. This person who makes remarks like this not only sounds insensitive, but she might be a little jealous. You have found a way to make lemonade out of lemons. She probably envies you.
I understand a little of what you are going through. I teach at a special ed school. I work with autistic children (and students with other disibilities) every day for seven hours per day. It is VERY, VERY, VERY difficult, albeit rewarding. This is why I rarely mention working at a school when I am not at work. Once I leave school, I am an artist. PERIOD This is how I keep emotionally healthy.
One of my colleagues who works at the school has a 25 year old autistic son. She too keeps so busy, she appears to be a whirlwind. However like you said, it keeps her sane!
:-)
Sheree
I would just take it as a compliment. It does sound a tad passive-aggressive. It probably says more about her character than yours. Probably a defense mechanism and she may not even know it herself.
Fly above with the eagles and not down with the crows.
FJH
Ladies, thanks for taking the time to post your thoughts. It really is helpful to all of us.
Um, gentleman too. Dads use the internet too, you know.
sorry I didn't bleep out the bad words!
Oh, and Dad's too! ;)
Kim, I forgot to mention. I wrote a blog post once about the "Wonder Woman" thing. Look at my self portrait as "WW":
http://www.wizzlewolf.com/wwomanblog.jpg
Tee hee hee
Awesome I love that picture from your link!
Hi Kim
Hope all is well. I often find my self stress over comments and post like this one. Sometimes I can't help but get angry. I rant a lot on my blog about this kind of stuff. I know people all have the right to their own opinion but why are they so down about it all the time. I love both my children yes at times there hard work but that comes with parenthood. We chose to put them here on earth so its down to use to love them, educate them and teach them right and wrong. No matter what condition they are born with. It's sad to hear mums blogging about the hard but never the good. I kind of fell sorry for any mother that is looking for a light at the end of a tunnel. Being a parent is amazing. No said it would be easy. The good times make them hard times so worth it! I just love being a mum.
We're not trying to be Super Moms but perhaps we have a bit more 'zest' than others. These 'others' feel intimidated, confused as to how some of us can accomplish so much whereas they can't so they attack, the best form of bullying around. I had a neighbour who had asked me to take care of her five year old once. I said no problem and asked her if everything was all right. She said yes, I just need to mop my kitchen floor. Can I tell you I was floored (excuse the pun). I had four kids at the time and could mop, vacuum, and etc...
So you see, if we've got zest in us, no one has the right to tell us to stop unless we are trying ourselves ragged and can't see it. That's a whole different ballgame.
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